It’s us, Men.

2012-03-14 13.07.50It’s us, men, this is how we do things, when we need something we do one of two: we either make it, if we can and have the needful capabilities and resources or we buy it.

If we want to go from a place to another, and since we can’t make a car all by ourselves and we really really and desperately need to do that, we buy it no matter how high the cost would be, we take a loan to do it.

We walk into an electronics store for example because we need to listen to the TV without getting disturbed by whatever is around us, we buy a headphone to do that, that simple, bottom line, we buy things because they do something, we buy them because we have a need for something to happen and we get that other thing that makes it happen, and once this latter stops doing its job that it’s supposed to do and we bought it for, we replace it, this is how our brains work, in everything, I mean EVERYthing.

Yes, you got that right, even in our relationships, we get into a relationship because we have some need to fulfill, be it a romantic need, sexual, having a family, raising kids….etc, and we are ready to really do our best to get this need fulfilled, even if we have to take a loan to fulfill it, just like we did with the car previously, but guess what happens when we give up on this other half when it stops “functioning” the way it should … exactly!! and if not literally, morally.

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We’re Already There?


I read this story in another language and wanted to translate it to English and share it with you because it’s really inspirational and eye-opener.

A tourist went to Mexico one day and was walking on the beach, He saw a bunch of fishermen selling their beautiful fish that He highly admired and he asked them:

How long do you spend fishing?

Not too long

Then why don’t you spend more time and fish even more?

They answered that what they fish is little and is enough for them and their families

And then what do you do afterwards?

Then we sleep till noon, we fish a bit, we play with our kids, we eat with our wives, we visit our friends at night and we sing songs….

I have an MBA from Harvard and I can help you!
You have to start fishing for a longer time and what you gain from
The additional fish you save it to get a bigger boat!

Then what?

With the bigger boat and additional money from the fish you will be able to buy a second and third boat and get yourselves a big fleet and then you can Sell your fish to big companies or you will even be able to have your own company, then you will be able to
leave this small village and move to the capital, or Los Angeles or even New York and you will then be able to proceed with your gigantic projects.

And how long would that take?

About 20 years, or maybe less, could even be 15 years

And then what?

(smiling) when you have such a big and successful business you would even be Able to get into the stock market and start gaining Millions!!

(Astonished) Millions? Really? And then what?

Then you can retire in small village on the sea shore, sleep till
noon, fish a bit, Play with your kids, eat with your wives, visit your
friends at night and sing songs….

With all our respect sir, but this is what we are doing now, then
what’s the Point in spending 15 years of our lives living in pain and suffer? – END.

A lot of us spend their lives wasting their energies, underestimating a quality time they spend with their families for a vanishing luxury, thinking that this will give him and them” Happiness”, but what happiness will it be when you are too old to enjoy it?

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The Wicked Word

sautThe Ego of the human being urges him to refuse being taken “For granted”, it makes him consider it an offense towards him, and it’s because of it many couples discontinued their relationships, it caused frustration between friends and on the professional perspective, it caused and still causing customers to breach contracts with you and all those mentioned repeat the same expression: “Don’t take me for granted”.

For the irony of it, this particular word is very dear to my heart, I like for instance to be taken for granted, I feel special if I was considered that, I mean someone who considers you that way is taking you for one of his group, family, or people, or whatever his side could be called, and for me, this is great.

For me, not to be taken for granted is considering me just like anybody else to you, just any other person you met in your life and had some stuffs to talk about and some unimportant time to share, and this could be maybe because I’m the type of men who believes in friendships, real friendships and likes to make a lot of them and would like them to continuously prosper and develop forever, maybe.

But I really don’t arrive to understand how one could ask his significant other not to take him for granted, especially the married ones, well, then who is to be taken for granted? Who is the one, you, as an individual, would rely on in your life and would rest assured he will never fail you if it’s not the one you’re sharing your bed with!?

Or the best friend, the childhood friend who asks you not to take him for granted and he always made you feel that he is your loyal buddy and will never let you down whatsoever and he is the one there in all your childhood moments and adventures, if not him then who?!

At the end of the day, I know it’s a personal opinion, and that everyone has his point of view on this specific subject but I only wanted to highlight on the bright side of it and to raise the flag on people, like me, who welcome being taken for granted and that No, at least they don’t consider it weird, but maybe for them you are the weird!

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She is a lot



She told him she loved him, She loves him

She Said that his existence in her life is a bless

She told him she can’t live without him

She prayed to God to keep him safe for her and for their kids

She told him he is the king of her heart

She told him you’re my love

She told him you’re the best thing that ever happened to me

She told him you’re the light of my life

She had a picture of him smiling

She showed it to everybody

She’s proud of him

She thinks he’s her Hero, this is what she said

She ran to him when He came back home,

She hugged him, I saw her

She didn’t care, as if I wasn’t there

She was sure he loves her more than anything,

She told me, He confirmed

She told me that I don’t do what I’m expecting

She was not expecting anything from him, or

She did and He did and I didn’t know

She said She can’t express her Love to me

But how could she do to him?

She says she loves me, She said she doesn’t

She said she maybe partially does

She confused me, I’m still confused

Because she never showed a photo of me, smiling

She never said I was her hero or the light of her life

I think she never prayed to God to keep me safe for her and the kids

She never ran to hug me when he was there, and didn’t care

She said I’m normal, just like anyone

She said she never fell for me, I was just like the rest

He feels special of course, He should, I envy him

I feel anonymous

Did She Lie? Is She still?

She has a pride

She doesn’t talk, but does she feel?

She does I think, but She doesn’t say

But I’m confused, I cannot tell

It hurts not to know how she feels

I trust her but not her feelings

She will stay always with me

She always did

She rejected him, and him

She accepted me

She escaped with me

I hope she says the same to me

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If I go..

I sometimes would like to know
What would happen if I go

Would there be sadness all around?
That I’m missing and can’t be found?

Or would happiness prevail?
As all attempts to find me fail?

Are people around because they care?
Or they’re only there for some affair?

Do they care for the very me?
My parents, friends and family?

Or all what counts is what you do
And only what they get from you?

Would they miss what I really Am?
Or no one really gives a damn?

Would some of their problems end?
When I no longer be their friend?

And Would they cheerfully say
Thank God because he’s gone away?

Or would they be so sad and blue
A sadness that is really true?

I only think of that sometimes
This is why I wrote these rhymes.

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Right is wrong?

….. Well even if you are saying the truth, and it’s right, and proved, and logical, this doesn’t mean that people will buy it, people are programmed sir, they wouldn’t believe that they were all the time wrong and that you, or someone else, discovered a new thing that rejects what they were raised on, some of them would, the open-minded ones would, the ones seeking knowledge and truth would, but not all, the rest are happy with what they have, of what they know, they lived with it and on it from a long time, they don’t have time to think of it again and from another perspective, they are afraid to do, or maybe they don’t have time to read and search about it to see what others have to say about it, so they just stick to their guns, it’s safer, and it’s acceptable to their community, even if it’s wrong, unapproved or illogical, it’s hassle free, and it works, it doesn’t have to be working as it should, but it works for them, the way they see it working.

The biggest proof of what I said above are ideologies, creeds, religions, and beliefs, one would only adopt one of them to be his own and reject everything else, traditions for instance, though some of them can’t be acceptable to you while it’s a pride for others.

So live with it my friend, try to speak yourself without expecting something in return, not all your words will be heard as you want to deliver them, and not everything you say and think is right will be adopted by the receiver, so take it easy, discuss, speak, express yourself but calmly, easily as the one who is willing to really learn from your discussion will do, and the one who doesn’t won’t and will only go on arguing continuously with no result.

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I know you’ll never listen..

.. this is normal, I know you won’t, but I’m not counting on changing your mind or behavior and start listening, I’m writing so that when you read this post today you remember it later on my friend, the engaged-to-marry.

Listen dear, your partner could lose or gain some weight, could change their hair color, whiten their teeth and get this famous “Hollywood smile”, or any other EXTERNAL change, but what is surely never going to change ever is their character.

If you were a romantic who dreamed of marrying a romantic person just like you then you should put this specific criteria in front of your eyes while chasing your dream and to never allow any distraction, because surrendering to any distraction could possibly lead you to a totally different result.


What I mean by distraction is somebody who has only one ingredient from the whole mixture you are looking for, but however, you felt something towards them, as mentioned above, watch out! Because later on it will be too late.

Many before you, dear friend, thought they would change their partners but guess what, that never happened, and if you are gentle, polite, tender, etc…. and you counted on your partner to treat you reciprocally then you are cheating nobody but yourself, your partner could really do, or could even have better attributes than yours but chances are always there that they don’t, because simply your partner is not more than a human being, just like any other person you meet in your life, they have their own positives and negatives, so never take them to be always better than you expect, and to cut it short, believe me, never expect anything from anyone…..should you do, you will be hurting no one but yourself.

Having said all the above, happy wedding day my friend, all the best, and see you after a couple of years….. cheers!!

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