lately, whenever I remember a good song, or a good movie and try to remember which year they were issued, I found out that most of them are 20 years old now, Huh? but why? when did that start to happen for God sake?
I’m only 33 however I already have a lot of memories that are 20+ year old? but where did those years go?, I probably lived them, or not?
It happened that few days earlier, I was watching an Indian movie, where one of the characters, a doctor, was telling his patient who’s diagnosed with cancer and will die in 3 months, that he has to make each and everyday of those 90 days unforgettable, telling him that if he looks back in his life, and tries to remember it, he won’t remember but those days that were different, the days that left a mark on his life, be it a good or a bad mark, “they will be how much?” he asked him, ” three? four? Ten? Thirty? those are the days you lived, the rest of them are as if you didn’t live them, they’re gone.”
If We look all back to the life we lived so far, I bet we won’t be able to remember 30 good days, we can remember the days we decided to change, the day we traveled for new opportunities, our wedding day, our divorce, the death of someone, the birth of each of our children, and those all will be few, where did the other days go?
As we live, we always remember ourselves when we were young, we thought getting a family and having children of our own and sending them to schools and feed them and buy them clothes is still very early to think about, but how scary it is when we look at it now, here we are, we are married with children, we got them to schools and we are taking care of their well-being and life utilities, but now it’s different, before, we didn’t know that the long journey we thought about is in reality a short one, and that days are running so fast, but now we know, we are sure that having them graduated and married and out of our houses for theirs is only a matter of time, a time that is really going faster than we ever thought it is, and what are we doing about it? we can’t do anything actually, we learned that we have to live the moment and like the song says: ” Que sera sera, whatever will be will be”, we have the experience to do it now, we know that becoming the elderly man or woman, we always thought we will never become because we are young and powerful and will always be, because the youth is the youth of the heart, is a fact that is only few days away, maybe we will be young at the heart but hey, we will surely have the wrinkles like the old people we always encounter and yes, we will have this weak body just like they do, they were young like us before, they thought the same, but here they are, this is an inevitable fact my young friend, ask Grandma.
In a certain age, it varies from an individual to another based on the opportunities and circumstances, we stand to see where we are now in our life, we recall what we encountered, remember some of the obstacles we faced, and the pain we went through, the tears we shed, we remember the victories, the good times, the success, all the factors that led us to what we are now, and we think of tomorrow, how will it be? will it be like the other normal people we met in our life? or will it be unique? will people notice I’m there? or will I die just like anybody else in our neighborhood or group of friends and will be only a memory in the heads of my children and family who remember the good things I told them once and the good manners I taught them and forgive the bad things they knew about me and that’s it?
We decide actually, and I learned that age is not but a number, as long as we walk, breath, eat, talk we can learn and we can change, and yes whatever our age is we can realise our dreams, if we have a certain fear or restriction we have to find a way to break it, not to show the others that we can, but for ourselves, to prove to ourselves that it’s only us who control our lives, it’s us who decide how to live and where, the fears and the weaknesses of others don’t have to affect us, we have to turn a deaf ear to them and we go on with our vision, we make our own path, even if others don’t see it right, we do, and if we fail we will know why and we will learn and go on chasing our dreams, this is what I decided to do with my life, my tomorrow.
Life stages, physically, are almost the same for everybody, and this is a fact we can not escape from, but what matters is not that, it’s not the shape, it’s what’s inside it, the brain, the feeling, the wisdom, the activeness, the good will and the good manners, what matters is how we influence the others, what we teach them, what we do to make their lives easier, how we help them, how we help our own families, our own children, what we teach them about life and how we guide them to behave toward their brothers and sisters in humanity no matter what race or religion they are, this is what counts at the end, and this is how people will remember you, if you leave a trace in their lives, if they benefit from your own life to ameliorate and enhance their own, and that’s about it.