This question is usually asked to someone who gives us some kind of advice that we don’t see him following, like the fathers who tell their children always not to smoke while they are themselves heavy smokers, they surely know that their children see them doing it but they still don’t quit it, and the youngsters here do not understand why they are being told not to do it while their idol is doing it, or for example the alcoholic mother who deprives her children from drinking, this is not understandable and really confusing to the children, if it’s really bad, why is their Mom or Dad doing it? In both of those scenarios, the children don’t know how much their parents are suffering from their own addictions and how much they are trying to keep their children away from this path, because they think it’s too late for them to save themselves already, or they see themselves incapable of taking that strict decision of quitting, so they just surrendered to their fate and let themselves be, and here, I think we all agree that the children will not buy their advices, or commands of quitting smoking or drinking at an early age, so some will decide to confront his parent with a question like ” why do you smoke then?” and some will just keep quiet and will smoke or drink secretly thinking that this will cause him no harm, it’s only that his parent deprived him because he thinks he is still young.
Most of us and of course the children are not aware that more than 70% of what they see with their bare eyes is fake, yes it is, but still we judge the others for what we see and consider it very authentic, you will say: “but come on! nobody told me, I saw it by myself for crying out loud! “ Yes!, I know, and I still ensure you, it is not real, not the truth, what you thought you really saw was only the rational and logical scenario for the end of the tale, your brain made you believe it happened only because he experienced a similar situation, be it with you or with somebody else that you saw doing, so the brain completed the scene that you only saw partially and made you believe a whole fake film of its own production.
So let’s take for example a simple scene of a young, handsome guy, wearing an expensive suit and driving a rolls-Royce while a bunch of people watching him passing by, if this is only what they saw, for 7 seconds, the time that took the rolls-Royce to pass by as they stare, each and everyone of them will have his brain jumping to a different conclusion: That the guy has a rich father who let him drive his car or that he bought him a car, or that this guy is really a successful man who was able at this very young age to get himself a rolls-Royce while the truth they didn’t think of would be that simply this young man is the driver of some rich family who tailored him this expensive suit to wear it whenever he goes to pick them up, so they keep a prestigious look to their social position in their community, a totally different story for a scene they saw with their own eyes, but their brain made it up and offered it to to them the way that seems very logical to their shallow way of thinking.
What I wanted to say is that having someone giving you an advice that he is not following could be only because of his incapability of doing it, he doesn’t have your chance, for instance you are smarter than him and he knows it, or you are taller, or younger and he is old, or because he simply knows you are more capable than he is, or other circumstances depriving him from doing it, just like this wounded soldier that we always see in the war movies being helped or carried all the way by his fellow soldiers, whenever they get closer to danger he tells them to leave him behind and run for their lives, we never think while watching the movie ” why doesn’t he take his own advice?” No, because we already know that his leg is severely hurt and he cannot run, this is why he didn’t, we didn’t need our brain to use his own art of producing his own rational and logical film, so we excused the wounded soldier for not taking his advice, but this is not always the case, we don’t always know what’s going on with others’ lives and we have to understand that we don’t always outsmart them, we have to realise that people have their own reasons to be under certain situations where even if they know the exit door to their salvation they still don’t take it, for different reasons, and that those people are sometimes better than us because they don’t spare a chance to alert the others and guide them to the right path for their freedom, for their getaway or for their good, as an advice, for free, but no, some of us will always have to say it ” take your own advice” don’t they?
In my humble opinion, one has to drop every arrogance he encounters whenever he receives an advice or a criticism, and instead of feeling hurt or humiliated, to just take this advice and use it to ameliorate himself, to evolve, nobody is perfect, the person advising us could need some advises himself too and we can surely give it to him later on, this is the behavior in my opinion that people should adopt, to get a better community, to become humble and genuine.