.. this is normal, I know you won’t, but I’m not counting on changing your mind or behavior and start listening, I’m writing so that when you read this post today you remember it later on my friend, the engaged-to-marry.
Listen dear, your partner could lose or gain some weight, could change their hair color, whiten their teeth and get this famous “Hollywood smile”, or any other EXTERNAL change, but what is surely never going to change ever is their character.
If you were a romantic who dreamed of marrying a romantic person just like you then you should put this specific criteria in front of your eyes while chasing your dream and to never allow any distraction, because surrendering to any distraction could possibly lead you to a totally different result.
What I mean by distraction is somebody who has only one ingredient from the whole mixture you are looking for, but however, you felt something towards them, as mentioned above, watch out! Because later on it will be too late.
Many before you, dear friend, thought they would change their partners but guess what, that never happened, and if you are gentle, polite, tender, etc…. and you counted on your partner to treat you reciprocally then you are cheating nobody but yourself, your partner could really do, or could even have better attributes than yours but chances are always there that they don’t, because simply your partner is not more than a human being, just like any other person you meet in your life, they have their own positives and negatives, so never take them to be always better than you expect, and to cut it short, believe me, never expect anything from anyone…..should you do, you will be hurting no one but yourself.
Having said all the above, happy wedding day my friend, all the best, and see you after a couple of years….. cheers!!